I was riding along today listening to my favorite show (NPR) and I overheard the “New Parenting Phenomena”…Parenting older children?  And I thought really? Older children…I know about babies, toddlers, children, tweenies, and teenagers, but older adults…you got to be kidding me…I listen closer and then it was explained they were referring to 20+ year olds who move back home with their parents due to whatever situation (mostly economical).  Now I  was like…Whoa…WTF…As a male parent, once we get them out, we feel that we have done our job, but now they are saying we have to then master parenting them when they return…Boy! This job does not EVER end!…I was So looking forward in handing my youngest (she is only 16 months) the boot when she crossed the stage at graduation…prepared to change the locks on the door and all…I couldn’t wait until I was able to enjoy roaming around in the nude and chasing the sweet tart around if I felt like it…Not worrying about saying the right thing, answering stupid repetitive questions, feeding them the right thing, ensuring the bills were paid, clothing were bought for them, that they go to school, and past their grades, dealing with teacher, coaches, band instructors, church members, or any other important figure, and listening to their complaints about what I have not bought them, gave them, for what I have said to them or just because they wanted to…Now I have to go and look for more information on this subject…so when they do return, I can be prepared…

 

What happened to “The get out of my house” parenting…I experienced…or if “you leave you better not come back” unless you have my grandkids mentality (learned that also)…

 

Parenting a young adult…Is this even possible?…As a young adult you suppose to mess up, ruin your credit, get drunk and find yourself in the bed with someone whose name you don’t quite remember, catch a none life threatening STD, get a speeding ticket, chase the opposite sex and when you finally catch them realize you better let that one go because it’s really better to watch it swim then it eat it, to say some things that you really would regret because crow also taste better in the morning after a night or regretful sleep, to loose your mind and maybe your virginity if your too loose, to learn ways in getting into situations as well of out of them without getting caught.

 

These things grow you up…force you to make mature decisions after you have surly made dumb ones…they often, is what bring you back home to your parents or a responsible adult who can provide you with guidance and a little tough love, a cold shower, or a warm couch to sleep on. ..but if you are home…you can’t do these things…least if you did, I feel it would not be the same…There are some things I don’t want my parents to know I did, they taught me better, and I know of these activities would really disappoint them if they found out…

 

But the broadcast, then go on to explain that your older children can also teach the parent…Sure…I bet they can…but whose parent really gonna listen? And if they do, do you honestly feel they will follow the lesson plan?…I know parenting is a very important job, and one should always be prepared to adjust, learn and move forward with the times; but shit there comes a time when enough is enough…I’m more on the line of…OK, I’ll give you a few months to get back on your feet, but remember it was fun making you and I’ll get the same enjoyment erasing you…regardless of your age, sexual orientation, gender, religious affiliation, health status, or social standing…so be in the house by curfew, go to church on Sundays, and follow MY rules (don’t act like your forgot)…or don’t let the door hit ya, where the Good Lord split ya..

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